Synopsis: Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper have created a handbook for parents and professionals navigating their feelings, the legal system, and the medical system when it comes to their transgender child. Whether the child is recently out or not, regardless of how old the child is, the transitioning process is a difficult and trying time for all parties involved, even the most progressive of parents. Filled with anonymous anecdotes, resources, and supportive words, this book is the first of its kind in terms of aiding parents with their varying emotions on the subject of their trans child.
Review: This book is about ten years old, but that doesn’t make it any less useful. This book is jam packed with resources, anecdotes, and supportive words. This book is for trans knowledgeable families as well as those who have no idea what they’re doing, and it shows with how the chapters are broken down. The first chapter is filled with vocabulary that will be used throughout the book and are useful to know in terms of your child. Then, from there, Brill and Pepper tackle the hard subjects of what to do in terms of your child’s educational facility, neighbors, legal systems, and medical systems.
Everything the authors said boils down to a few things: Let your child take the lead. Do not vocalize your embarrassment or shame. Support your child. Set boundaries if you must, but make sure they are a reasonable compromise across all members of your family.
It had been a while since I’d read something under the “feminism” umbrella, and I was glad that this was the book I chose. It aided me in further deconstructing my perceived notions of trans and nonbinary folks, and I’m more than pleased to know that I have one more title in my “feminist toolbox” to reference.